Many people who are living in one day at a time recovery are people who are afraid of letting go. What we have discovered is that our biggest fear in all honesty is the inability of letting go of being in control. If we want to grow we have to learn to let people make their own mistakes. People have to function at their functioning levels and we should not interfere in the name of rescuing them. When we are continually rescuing someone we are actually manipulating their reality and we are interfering with their natural development. When we do this we can be doing more harm than good. This is like physically saving someone who is drowning in the shallow end when all we had to do was tell them to stand up. We need to ask ourselves why are we doing this. More than likely it’s because we are afraid. We need to let go. Many times it’s the best thing that we can do. Peace.
