People living in one day at a time recovery know having boundaries is a good thing. Even though having boundaries is important, many of us have to be reminded of this. We must tell ourselves that boundaries are okay. Seriously! Many of us are too kind hearted or too afraid to say no. Guilt, fear, and unbridled generosity are recipes for making people pleasers. People pleasers are not happy people. The kind hearted people who are afraid to say no will eventually learn that sometimes the kind thing to do is to say no. Saying no can help people to be responsible, healthy individuals. When a person understands personal responsibility, they understand how to be a part of one day at a time recovering people. When we understand this we comprehend that truly we belong. Having boundaries doesn’t mean that we can’t be kind and helpful people. When we understand this we become happier and healthier people. Most of us strive to find this balance. We need to keep consistency and purpose in our recovery. What most of us discover is that when we learn to set boundaries, we become much more generous individuals. Not only to others but also to ourselves. When we do we become far less resentful, and we become at peace with our decisions. Remember this. It’s important. Peace.
