Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the determination of our callous egos who wish to instill their power so that they may be in control of our desires, our words, and our choices. In other words they want to be the “I Am”. Our experience in early recovery (a year or two of abstinence) is just about the right amount of time for our egos to try and assert their importance claiming that they have done all of the work which has made our recovery possible. They can even become quite callous in their need to dominate or be in control. Little do they have the ability to know when they are hurting someone. Upon this realization our egos become quite humble. Reality occurs and we know that recovery was done unto us by nothing other than grace. Even our egos find humility. One day at a time recovery becomes more than a reality to us and we make better choices. We become a small part of the whole. It’s a natural part of our one day at a time maturation. Peace.