Those of us living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of uneven equality. This is the bitter-sweet truth of recovery. What we understand about people who live in long-time recovery is they have a lot of experience living life on life’s own terms and have successfully navigated many adversities, difficulties, and setbacks for many, many years while remaining abstinent in a way which they understand comes only from receiving grace one day at a time. Many of us fear it might not be the same for those new to recovery because the odds seem stacked against them, and it appears the playing field is uneven in regards to maintaining abstinence as they face life on life’s term. When we look seriously at such situations we see the equality of our endeavors because grace is grace and it is available for us all. We all had to grow and have to grow in grace to live the reality of uneven equality. Our equality is we are all just one drink, puff, or hit away from relapse and we are all equal in living life one day at a time. We share in the inextricable connection between recovering people and that is the gift of freedom and hope. In life, and in recovery, we are all equal regardless of how long we have been in recovery. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery need to experience a good dose of ample reality to experience and navigate life on life’s own terms. Ample reality consists of living in wellness and in struggle. It also consists of good times and hard times in which we strive and we thrive facing good emotional and mental health regardless of adversity and setbacks while we will also experience joy, happiness, and freedom. Ample reality lets us know that life is doable, faceable, and survivable as we live in reality while living in one day at a time recovery in which aloneness ends and we become inextricably connected to other recovering people who have experienced ample reality living life on life’s own terms. We know that ample reality is a gift for many. It is more common than we think. Peace.
What most people living in one day at a time recovery get to understand is that recovery isn’t just esoteric imaginings. Recovery is meant to be simple enough for common folk to understand, and in its simplicity we learn the reality of living life and recovery just one day at a time. It is one day at a time abstinence that has made it possible for many of us to find long-term recovery and be or become healthy, happy, joyous, and free people. We understand that both life and recovery have adversities that we will have to face. We understand that many of us who had gained some esoteric knowledge about addiction were certain to relapse because we were too smart to keep recovery simple and realistic. People who we meet in the rooms of recovery teach us that and in as such we surrender to the reality of grace. Peace.
Those of us who live in one day at a time recovery have to learn to at least say hi to our shadow. Our shadow is those parts of us we deny, repress, and attempt with all our might to keep from being known by others and also ourselves. We can act humble, caring, peaceful, and concerned for others but if we dig deep, is it really true? What we have learned is that addicts use to live and live to use. When we come to the total realization that we need to be high to function we understand the reality of our total self-centeredness, and we understand that everything is all about us. No matter how well we hide it, it is always there. When we accept this we can at least say hi to our shadow and maybe then we can recognize our egocentric way of thinking. When we do this we become open to one day at a time recovery which isn’t easy. Perhaps we will even stop punishing ourselves and others. It takes much grace and much patience from others for us to see this. We are stepping into a new reality and perhaps we will be the patient and humble people we hope to be. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of when the light shines. When we witness the light shining in others we get to see the happy, joyous, and free lives that others participate in, live in, and share with us on a regular basis. This is more and more apparent in the realities of one day at a time recovery when others grow freer one day at a time. The light often shines in people fairly new to recovery ( a year or two of abstinence) and we should encourage them to keep doing what they are doing. The proof is in the pudding when we see that turmoil, upsets, and adversities still occur to them but in grace, with grace, and through grace they stay in the reality of recovery living life one day at a time. It reminds us of the inextricable connection we share. Those of us who have been in long term recovery often see the light still shining in those of us who who be around for a long time. In all and all it keeps us humble. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery either carry or carried a heavy load in regards to the realities and the non-realities of living our lives as human beings. Our realities are we try to carry the heaviness of life all by ourselves. As hard as we try to face our realities alone, we find aloneness is or should be a non-reality for recovering people. For some of us the heaviest load we carry is the noise in our own minds. We need to invite someone in to help us navigate through the realities and non-realities of life. Many of us have sought guidance from empathetic individuals who have been trained to help people deal with the heavy loads of being people. Perhaps then we will learn that too much aloneness can bring with it a fair amount of toxic thinking. In all humility we have been gifted with the reality of one day at a time freedom. Peace.
What most of us learn in living a life of one day at a time recovery is that there will be disappointment. Disappointment is a reality of living in an imperfect world which is inhabited by imperfect people. The reality that we’ve learned to help us through disappointment is that we roll with the punches. We have experienced enough love, care, concern, and grace to understand that things will be alright. When someone disappoints us we try to give grace because we know it will free us of resentment. Some of us will struggle in such situations and wonder when will we feel free from disappointment. All we truly know is it happens in time. Sometimes quickly – sometimes slowly – but it happens. It happens because we don’t want to be bitter, resentful people. Grace and forgiveness – seventy times seven. Sometimes we have to give it to ourselves. Peace.
Some people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of when anxiety is deep within. If we could describe it we might say it’s like the edginess experienced by gulping down six large cups of coffee. Anyone who has nervously tried to calmly function in such a state knows such a reality. We just breathe deeply. Some of us use a centering prayer to calm us. Some of us, well – just don’t drink so much coffee. And some of us just stop catastrophizing and focus on the task at hand. Some of us simply let go, let God, and trust in the process. We also reach out for support. We will be okay. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery know what it is like to be individually gathered by a spirit of togetherness to be participants in sharing both our struggles and our joys in a world of reality’s growing and everchanging journey. In this we learn what one day at a time living is all about and we get to experience and comprehend recovery’s fragmented freedom. In our individual gathering our shared experiences make life doable and inviting. We learn from each other. Our journey is not about perfection and it isn’t about being better off spiritually or emotionally in regards to dealing with or handling adversity. We simply believe we are individually gathered by a spirit of togetherness in which our collective experience reveals to us we no longer have to be alone. This is the reality of belonging as opposed to just fitting in. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery cautiously subscribe to the concept that we see ourselves as being humbly unique. When we humbly accept our uniqueness, we are actually admitting that unlike other people we cannot consume or partake in substances because they can, and will very easily make our lives a hodgepodge of unmanageable emotional pain. This is the reality of active addiction. When we understand this reality, we become people actively living in one day at a time recovery who now see life as doable and good. Being humbly unique reveals to us the inextricable connection between all recovering people. We are no longer alone. It’s a gift. Peace.