Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the search for otherness. We understand that the otherness we desire to experience is part of an inherited make-up which has made us living breathing human beings with the need to belong to something bigger and astronomically more powerful than ourselves. For some of us it as as simple as going fishing. For some of us it is a belief that all people are inextricably connected in the human existence. Also many of us choose to call the otherness God, the spirit or the universe. In our recovery when we take a simple breath we experience the reality of the otherness. The otherness pulls us out of the dark places of our journeys letting us know we are not alone and we belong. We also get to know happiness and joy. In this we understand grace. This is our imperfect humble one day at a time recovery. Peace.
Most people living in one day at a time recovery don’t want to be hard to get along with. If we look at life realistically we know that there are times that we are. Being hard to get along with usually comes into play when things don’t go the way we think they should. The reason such things make us hard to get along with is because when we feel like we are losing control, or are about to lose control, fear becomes the catalyst driving our thinking. Another reality is our fearful ego responds in a way that it must assert itself in all situations. When we learn to ease our fears and can let go of egoic control we are easier to get along with. We don’t have to become doormats but we do have to listen to others. We mean really listen. Perhaps then we won’t always be so hard to get along with. Peace.
Many people living life one day at a time know when reality is too difficult. We might try to solve challenging situations buy ourselves, but reality beats the hell out of us and we know that we need help. People who are very strong and wise have taught us this. Reaching out for help from professionals, family members, and friends doesn’t need to be a humiliating experience. We all need help at one time or another. People are not built to carry the weight of the world on their shoulders forever. If it’s too difficult we reach out. Be it depression, anxiety, addictions, or other health issues, we reach out to health professionals. If we have other difficulties we reach out to the appropriate people and agencies that can help. We will be required to follow direction. It’s reality. Once again, we all need help. It lessens the load. Peace.
Those of us who live in one day at a time recovery know that it would be an absolutely ridiculous endeavor if we were to seek a life that has no anger or resentment. The best that we can possibly do is to feel such feelings and then participate in the process of letting them go. If we decide to live a life full of anger and resentment we will become bitter and depressed people. Obsessive thinking takes us there. Do we really need to unleash our wrath. When the answer that comes to us is “no” we begin to heal or in other words we are starting to let go. It takes time. That’s reality. We let go to be free. Peace.
There are people living in one day at a time recovery who spend parts of their time entertaining bitterness. When we do this we are in all actuality living disappointed and resentful lives. We spend our time looking for someone or something to blame. Such a reality is akin to depression. With no hints of true gratitude we share our bitterness with others in an attempt to make allies in creating a “common enemy”. This has been a passion of humanity since the beginning of time. Resentment and hate are dubious luxuries recovering people cannot afford. It leads us back to active addiction or what alcoholics call a dry drunk. There are better realities we can entertain and when we find gratitude we can find them. Reach out. Peace.
Most people living in one day at a time recovery eventually come to understand that we all have a beauty that we try to hide. The beauty we all try to hide is the innocence and the vulnerability that live in the very depths of our souls. One day at a time we come to understand how little we really do know and how vulnerable and innocent we truly are as we live our lives as recovering people. Even the most cynical of us eventually learn to trust in a higher power that loves us unconditionally and is impossible for a human being to truly comprehend. We discover that we stop allowing ourselves to be led by the whims and desires of our egocentric delusions. When we do this we understand the reality of one day at a time recovery and now when we fall we fall upward. Peace.
Some of us who are living in one day at a time recovery learn when we are blaming others for our struggles we are actually in all reality paying no attention to what our struggles really are. This is the reality of scapegoating which can make us bitter people opposed to love, belonging, and the inextricable connection between all people. When we understand this we understand we can disagree without opposing love, belonging, and the inextricable connection we all share. Scapegoating and dehumanization should happen less when we live in one day at a time recovery and perhaps we learn to drop the word blame in regards to the reasons for our own unhappiness. Struggles become less as we discover our own reality. It’s the simplicity of love. Peace.
Some people living in life one day at a time discover if they live their lives without extending grace they will end up being self-righteous resentful people. Some of us who live our lives in one day at a time recovery understand this and in understanding this we come to know that we have lost all claims to self-righteousness the moment we declared ourselves to be addicts. The more we hold onto our self-righteousness the more resentful we will become. Our fears, our uncertainties, and our need for control in all honesty reveal to us our claims to moral and spiritual superiority are nothing but the created fallacy of an egocentric delusional reality. At some point in our recovery this happens to all of us. We had to think this way to feel safe. It helped us deal with our fear of being or becoming weak. When we mature in recovery we accept it and in doing so we learn the gift of extending grace not only to ourselves but to others as well. We need to be vigilant. Some of us don’t live long enough to experience it. Bitterness is poison. We need to extend grace to get past it. Peace.
The reality of being people who are living in one day at a time recovery is sometimes we are people who are walking with broken legs. We limp and hobble along knowing that full-well that if we do not reach out for support we could very easily fall flat on our face causing serious harm to ourselves. After we have fallen enough we come to the realization maybe, just maybe, it’s okay to ask for help. Very often we find help in places we never thought we would. Somehow, someway, someone knows what to do and recognizing we are walking with broken legs they either become a temporary crutch to help us once again navigate the reality of recovery one day at a time or they show us where to get the help we need. And when we heal a bit we help others who are walking with broken legs. To receive and to give. One day at a time recovery teaches us this empathetic reality. Peace.
People living in one day at a time recovery know the reality of rising peace. We have experienced this through our experiences of acceptance, courage, and the wee bits of wisdom we have gathered and tried to hold onto during our one day at a time living. The hopeless have become hopeful and in this we find rising peace. As we live in constant vigilance in the reality of abstinence, we grow a bit at a time from the experience, strength, and hope given to and shared with us by other recovering people. We get what they are saying and we are doing what they are doing which is living in recovery one day at a time. They have shown us even the difficult is doable and in as such we continue living in rising peace. It’s our reality which is living in continual grace. Peace.