Many people living in one day at a time recovery know the reality of rising times and faded glory. We remember what life was like when we came into early recovery which often brought the new relationship, the new job, and much better shape in our financial reality. Things were really looking up. Life was certainly on the move upward. Then adversity came knocking at our doors and we discovered what faded glory was all about. Perhaps the relationship ended. Perhaps we lost our jobs and our finances became a mess. Adversity was there kicking our door in but we stood there strong and steady ready to face life on life’s on terms. We reached out, stayed abstinent, and prayed. We expected that life would get better and it did. We become grateful. Reality showed up and we cried or we smiled. It’s about resilience It’s all life. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery need to have a reality of control. This means we need to be able to make choices even when we are upset and resistant to advice. In addition to this the need to have a reality of control is common among all people. It is not that we act as control freaks, there are just times we are not receptive to direction because it might not always be welcomed or perceived as something correct. When things are out of sorts with us we need to make a calm decision. It is always true that decisions made calmly are received better because they are made in a reality of control. It makes life easier and easier is always better. We also need to let it go to gain control. Be comfortable. Be respectful. It’s reality. Peace.
Some people living in one day at a time recovery are people who lived in the unreal world of delusional beliefs. This does not mean that we ourselves are delusional, or that we are the delusions ourselves, it means our thinking was a bit messed up. Our first and foremost delusional thought was that we thought that using substances was a way to enlightenment. When we found abstinence, and then recovery, we discovered we could have never been more mistaken. We had to accept that maybe, just maybe, our thoughts were unwell and to get well we had to discover a life of one day at a time recovery. When the fog clears we honestly understand, “The journey is beginning” . Knowing this recovery finds us and we discover humility and that we have much to learn. We take a moment and we breathe. Life unfolds as it should. Peace.
Many people who are living with mental health disorders and addiction need help with the reality of saying no or setting boundaries. This is a fact of life and many of us fall under the category of vulnerable people. In reality it’s not because we don’t say no it’s because people won’t listen when we do say no. For those of us who are able to find recovery we know it is a miracle that we ever did find a way to abstain from whatever it was that we used to escape life. You see – reality is people we say no to force their realities on to us. Those of us who are passive know this way too well. All we can say to ourselves is keep on saying no to using and ask for help. Pray for safety and love. We all need help and we deserve it. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery remember what it was like when we uttered out-loud the words “God help me.” It is a desperate time that often leads to us receiving the gift of desperation. This gift of desperation is something we might not fully understand until years after of living in recovery. When we become aware of how alone we felt at that particular moment we understand we had to feel that aloneness because God was the only thing that could help us and when this higher power came noticeably into our lives we understood we were never alone and because of this we found ourselves surrounded by others in the rooms of recovery. This gave us the gift of belonging and the reality of hope. One day at a time we began to grow. It’s a reality of grace. Be grateful. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understood when we had hit our limit in regards to how much and how often we would use substances to escape reality. We also hit our limits as to how many times we could be bailed out by our family members. We had to come to terms with the idea that our loved ones’ constant rescuing was a responsibility they no longer wanted in order that they could have their own peace of mind. They discovered if they didn’t stop we would never grow up. When we discovered we had no choice but to be responsible we became responsible. In doing so we gained freedom and gratitude because we found a one day at a time journey that we could truly appreciate. In doing so we learned what life and recovery was really about. Peace.
Many people who are living in one day at a time recovery are people who are going to bed with faith. We are people who set our alarms to help us wake up the next day which in all reality is a great act of faith. Often we set our coffee makers to brew us a pot of coffee upon our awakening and we arise to the smell of fresh brewing coffee. Why do we do this? We do this because we love life and we are responsible. Not only do we just simply overall love life we love our lives in which we love living in recovery one day at a time. Wake up and smell the coffee brewing. Join the faithful. You might save someone’s life today. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery know that we really need reality but in knowing that we know that reality is not living in the past or living in the future. Reality is dealing with the present. The present that we need to live in is dealing with the actions and the responsibilities of this day. Even if our actions are actions that prepare us for the future we do so in each moment. This is reality enough. When we participate in the present task of the present day we are actually living in an awareness that creates a good past. There is a lot to be said about doing tasks with intention. This makes the reality of a well done past. We now know the reality of wellness. The past and the future have been and will be. Today is the reality. We really need reality don’t we. It’s all grace. Welcome to the present. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of being owned by the weed demons. There is a big difference in recreational and medicinal usage of cannabis and being a weed addict. Weed addicts cannot control their usage. Often weed addicts cannot function at a mature level of being able to adapt to adversity and they often fall short in fulfilling the responsibilities of every day task such as controlling emotional outburst, going to work, and maintaining an adult level of independence. Most people grow out of this by the time they are in their twenties but the weed addicts do not. They need help. What do we do? We reach out and get the help we need. When we do we find one day at a time freedom. Reach out. Join a 12 step program. You’re worth it. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of searching for peace of mind. What we are quick to understand is that peace of mind is in changing what we need to change and accepting what we cannot change. In other words we cannot change the nature of the universe no matter how hard we try but if we are to become and remain abstinent from that which impairs our thinking we will find healthy and manageable lives. This means we will learn to navigate adversity and perhaps gain a bit of wisdom when we do so. One of the greatest gifts we will receive is the one day at a time freedom that recovering people experience one day at a time. This simple approach to life brings much peace with it. Reality can be a wonderful. We just need to step aside and let it happen. Peace.