Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of joining the togetherness that many recovering people so choose to share with each other on a daily basis. For most of us it is the reality of discovering the joy and the freedom found in one day at a time living. When we get there we learn to be patient with ourselves, and we recognize that being kind to ourselves goes a long way in developing the ability of being kind to others. In our imperfect lives of one day at a time recovery we join in a kinship of human beings who grow in resilience, compassion, and love. We help each other to navigate not only adversities, but to realistically welcome the good times that we gratefully experience in our lives. Joining the togetherness is what reality is all about. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the fall we experience which makes us come to terms with our egocentric being is a necessary reality which catapults us into recovery as we begin to meet our true selves. We experience that recovery, and also our fall (our necessary realities), are both the gifts of mercy and love which we have received, and are receiving from God, the spirit, or the universe. This becomes a natural aspect of spiritual transformation which allows us to give grace to our egocentric selves. We learn to observe our delusional thinking letting go of our self-absorbed self patterns. We are discovering the gift of unconditional love. This realization is the natural experience of being a human being. We are becoming empathetic people in the reality of grace. We see it all around us. Peace.
Many people who are living in one day at a time recovery write gratitude lists. Often we do this when we are depleted of, or struggling to find joy. Sometimes we do this when adversities are kicking at our doors. We also write gratitude lists when we don’t want to give ourselves, others, or life in general a break. Difficult times happen to all of us. Gratitude lists are important. In truth a gratitude list is a written celebration of life. During struggles we need to search for, write down, see and acknowledge the good things in our lives. Our reality is if we are living in recovery, we have being in recovery to be grateful for. If we are living in recovery our mental health is good. Write that down. Read it and acknowledge it. If you are living in recovery and you are having a difficult time, and you know it’s a difficult time that will end, write it down, read it and acknowledge it. These are all gifts of being in recovery. There are many many other things to be grateful for. Search for them and write them down. Read them and acknowledge them. When we read these gratitude lists when we are doing well we will really see they are a written celebration that life brings us much joy. People living in recovery know this. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery know the reality of when time gracefully disappears. This happens because of the reality of long time abstinence and the reality of aging physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. What we get to understand is that very likely we will experience the challenges of such developmental processes of life. What most of us hope for is for time to gradually and gracefully disappear. This might sound a bit depressing, but it is a part of life. Hopefully we come to an acceptance with it and are still able to manage to live one day at a time being at peace with all that God, the spirit, and the universe has given us and has prepared for us when time begins to gracefully disappear. It all was, all is, and all will be the reality of grace. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery spend a fair amount of time watching the world smile. In the really real of recovery many of us join in with the world as it smiles ever so happy to feel the warmth of its peace and the freedom we find in one day at a time abstinence. We do so in the joy we share with family, friends, other recovering people, and the world at large. This joy is a kinship that holds back the miseries and demands of a messed up world helping us to desire little of life’s obsessive wants. We learn to love people and use things, not use people and love things. We also learn to feed each other unless we starve and to see the love and good in we. It’s a gift. Peace.
People who are living in one day at a time recovery change. In all honesty we become healthier to the point that we are different beings. It takes time for the changes to take place, and in all honesty recovering people won’t see the changes first. Others notice them before we do. It’s not what we say that make others notice. It’s in what we do, or do not do, that others see. In all honesty, often when we are healthier, our very being changes into responsible people who others can depend on, and get along with. Although life still can be difficult we can adapt, adjust, and do well regardless of our disorders. When these changes takes place, we too will notice them. Why? It’s not because of what we say. It’s because of what we do, or do not do, and because of the development of our very being. We will develop a sense of belonging when we find our niche, and grow a little day by day, one step at a time. When we do, we will be aware of our character flaws and our short-comings. They might change or disappear. Some call this growth. We call it grace. In all reality we become different human beings. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery came into recovery by way of attending the rooms of recovery. For some of us it was a long time ago. We were young and active but even in our early years some of us had difficulty adapting to adversity and change so we struggled as people do who lack flexibility so we struggled with control issues. Nonetheless we look back thirty years like sentimental people do and we remember such times as grand and joyous times when we overcame the bondage of addiction because of our remarkable skills and because we believed in our own chosen positions in life. Contrary to such beliefs, today many of us believe our recovery is founded in grace. We can thank the other for this and many of us believe the other is the face of God, the spirit, or the universe granting us such grace in the reality of one day at a time recovery. Through such reality we stayed abstinent even during times that we didn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of staying in recovery. We did a bit of work on ourselves, we listened to few suggestions from others, we went to the rooms, we tried to clean house where we could and we remained abstinent one day at a time. Some of us still have difficulty with being flexible and being able to adapt to adversity but we remain abstinent. The rooms are not perfect but the people in them help each other today just as much as they did many years ago. When we understand grace we understand this reality. It all part of of the journey. Peace.
People living in one day at a time recovery are people who find direction in the darkness. What we have discovered is when darkness comes, or when darkness came, it was, or is, the really dark. The darkness ropes us into reality, but while living in reality we find the darkness can only lead us in its ever present luminous recovery. What we are saying is that we get to know ourselves and we get to experience the reality of resilience. We become the recipients of grace. Pain has a way of lighting the dark. So does love. By looking into the face of the other we find one day at a time recovery. We understand the joy and freedom in abstinence. The darkness blinds us no more. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery understand that our reality is that there will be times that we put our foot in our mouths. When we do it’s a reality that is an embarrassing situation not only for ourselves but also for others especially if we say something that could be embarrassing for them. Sometimes when we put our foot in our mouths it creates a shameful reality for ourselves. Our concerned reality is that hopefully we don’t cause shame for others. When we do this there is a pretty rapid inner voice that says to us, “Why did I say that?” If we have caused embarrassment or shame for others we need to apologize. Then our best reality might become is that we stop putting our foot in our mouths. When we do so we are gaining awareness. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery live our lives with intention. As we live trying to help others, we know we are trying to help ourselves. In all reality we can only keep what we have by giving it away. We know that we share our recovery (our experience, strength and hope) to help others. We do this on purpose, driven by empathy and gratitude. In doing so we can tell others that we know what their pain and their difficulties are like. We can also say that we know their happiness, joy and hope. We let them know that others did this for us. Sharing and support are two way streets. They help us all. We understand that our sharing our recovery is a selfishly selfless endeavor. We also know that we cannot share with others what we don’t have or what we have never experienced because this is the reality of life. In regards to such a situation we have to say that we do not know, and we must let others know they need to look elsewhere. This is particularly true in regards to medical situations. When we know this we know the reality of recovery. We don’t know everything. In addition to this we cannot forget the truth of our intention is that we selfishly selflessly try to help others. We need to be healthy for this. We can only keep what we have by giving it away. Peace.