Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand that we’re not supposed to know everything. In reality though we’re supposed to reach out for help so we will have a chance to become recovering people. We do so by understanding we must somehow become abstinent which often happens in a detox, a rehab, or hospital. Our reality is that we will all need some kind of support when we are discharged. Often we will be followed up with outpatient care. We could be directed to attend 12 step meetings for their much needed support. In doing so we will discover that we’re not supposed to know everything and we need to listen up and if we do we have a good chance of maintaining our recovery. It’s just a reality. We are always learning. With this knowledge we have a chance. Listen. Reach out. Peace
Many people living in one day at a time recovery learn that sooner or later the noise in our heads settle down. Some claim we need to do shadow work in order that we find the taming of the noise when the ego stops needing so much recognition and attention. People living in 12 step recovery start their shadow work with writing a searching and fearless moral inventory. For some of us the work continued on in journaling and other forms of developmental writing. In doing so we became aware that our shadows are the parts of us that we ignored, hid, or stuffed down so deep that even we denied them. When we accepted our shadows the noise began to settle down and they became a recognized part of us. We become healthier, whole and more mature. We became self-aware. Today we know ourselves. Freedom has a new meaning. Peace
Many people living in one day at a time recovery know what it is like to be living the reality of our unimagined dreams. Most of us would say that our lives are more than full of reality, hope, and one day at a time freedom. We know the blessing of grace and we have plentiful skills and supports to help keep us abstinent on a daily basis. We find it natural to be capable of fulfilling our obligations to our families, our friends, our co-workers and ourselves. In doing so our lives become absolute fantastic journeys in which we know adversity is real but it is always doable and we cope with it. We are living the reality of our unimagined dreams. Enjoy it. And for this we thank God. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of addiction and because of this understanding we know that we have to work on recovery each and every day. Touching base on a daily basis with at least one person who is in recovery is an important thing to do. Why? Because we help each other. When we do this we create a sense of belonging in which we know that in order to stay abstinent we need help. This keeps us humble and having humility goes a long way in living one day at a time recovery. People who live in 12 step recovery have been doing this for close to a century now. They show us the importance of togetherness. We are grateful and happy people. For most of us there is no other way. We reach out, trust God, and live the journey. It’s all grace. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery know the reality of being justifying pain-hoarders. Our reality is that our egos just love this. We aren’t saying that our pain can’t be validated. What we are saying is we if we don’t know how to let go we will end up being caught up in a cycle of resentment and ill-will towards others. We acknowledge that we have been hurt but we make the choice to live for this day and we forgive. When we do there is a good chance our pain-hoarding will stop. We allow ourselves to become unstuck knowing whole-heartedly that resentments are joy killers. When we do we will see that when we let go we are free from the chains of ill-will and resentment and we discover that our lives are so much better. We now understand what grace is all about. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand that when they first become abstinent they do so with a little bit of knowledge. That knowledge is that with the help of others and if we don’t pick up that first drink, puff, snort, or hit things are more that likely going to work out for us. It sounds kind of simple but it isn’t and it is. This is how early recovery happens and we often do so in the rooms of recovery. We often learned that we reached out for help because we were in trouble. Years later we will see that our desperation brought us the gift of desperation which made it possible for us to live happy, joyous, and free lives. This little bit of knowledge saves our lives and it bears with it new horizons. Pay attention and enjoy them. Peace.
Most people living in one day at a time recovery know that we are not perfect people. This revelation comes to all of us who no longer hide behind the veil of our own innocence. This innocence is not a reality that many non-recovering people can easily understand. Our beings were altered early on in our lives and kept us from grabbing on to the realities of our own imperfections. Our fearful egos made this so but after a bit of time in recovery we got to see our flaws, character defects and our short-comings. Reality and humility hit us all at once. We became humble people who turned to prayer to help us deal with our flaws. We soon realized we didn’t have to always be in control. Recovery brings us to humility which is a wonderful thing. We learn to embrace the gift of imperfection. We learn to embrace life. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of trying to climb a ladder without rungs. When we do this we are the people who come into the rooms of recovery refusing to take direction from others who have experience in recovery and have a good handle on how to live life one day at a time and could probably help us with the experience they have gained while they have lived decades in abstinence. If we are not teachable we will probably never learn. This is especially true in regards to 12 step recovery. Without working the 12 steps we will probably struggle far more than those who take direction from people with the experience in working the steps. What we have learned is the 12 steps are the rungs of the ladder. They are an easier softer way. Please pay attention. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand that not everyone likes us. Our best response is to simply accept this. There is no need for a well thought out speech in which we can state how good we are as people living in one day at a time recovery or how much we have changed for the better but we can accept that some people just don’t like us. Our knowledge tells us our lives are founded in the reality of grace. We cannot control what others feel nor can we say what’s not to love. We might have even awakened by leaps and bounds but perhaps this is not for others to know. After all – do we like everyone we know? If we are honest the answer is probably no. We are here to love and respect others. It’s just plain decency. Be nice. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery know about enjoying that first cup of coffee on an easy-going and joyful morning. Sometimes that first sip is so good that we beam inside and a smile comes to our face. These are special times that we often experience when we are the first ones up or if we do live alone it can honestly and truly be a grand time anyways. The word grand seems like a bit of a stretch for a morning coffee but it isn’t. It’s the regular and simple things that make us happy. Reality is good. What else can we say. Peace.