There are situations in our lives where there is nothing we can do. The reality though is that we do a lot in accepting this. One of the most frustration situations that we encounter in our lives is another person’s active addiction and the behavior that comes with it. These challenging behaviors are coping methods of one’s self trying to run from self-centered fears while feeding the obsessions of self. The sad thing is that this is a personality trait that can often be abusive to other people. When we come into one day at a time recovery we know this. We know this because many of us were also trying to run from self-centered fears while feeding obsessions of self. We know that we cannot change other people but we can set limits, or we can have boundaries. When there is nothing we can do we do what we can. Thank you for reading.
Often, when we are overwhelmed with anxiety, we lose the sense of ease that we might usually have. When this happens many of us feel the need to be in control. This is a perfectly normal reaction to anxiety but we can only control what we can control. The things that we cannot control are out of our hands and as frightening or disappointing that they are, or seem to be, we can only accept them. We learn radical acceptance. What else can we do? At times we have no other choice. This is the gift of reality and reality can be difficult. There is one reality that many of us do discover in one day at a time recovery and it is that we have the right to own these difficult times and the right to know we are not out of our minds. We have lost our sense of ease and the need to be in control is a perfectly normal desire but as others have told us – “Accept what we cannot change – courage to change what we can – and may we have the wisdom to know the difference”
Some people are creative driven people. Often when we seek to create something we are trying to express our feelings and our beliefs. Often we are sharing our values, and our intentions to participate in this journey that we call life. When we create we often can be exposed to a touch of humility. When being a creative person we will understand that life is not a competition. We accept this when we realize that creation is not merely an endeavor to inflate our egos. We understand that creativity is a part of our being. In my case it is a component of one day at a time recovery. Good, bad, or indifferent, creativity helps us all belong. If we step out of our egos we can all identify. Thank you for reading.
The reality of living with a concurrent disorder is the support that we need to maintain good health. This truly is a tireless reality. Others are quite generous with their support as long as we are willing to try to help ourselves. When we try to help ourselves, we often become the support for others who are also trying to help themselves. Any support group, or 12 step program member, knows the truth of this. We also have the support of many advocates who believe this tireless reality is a must. This truly is a gift. Thank you for reading.
When we decide that we are choosing to live our lives, and our recovery, one day at a time we realize that recovery brings with it an aspect of conflicting realities. In recovery, we choose not to take that first one. When others have asked me if I could moderate my intake I have simply replied that I choose not to chance it. It is the total lack of control, which can occur, that I choose not to risk. Experience has revealed this to me many times. I enjoy my recovery and my life. I love being free from active addiction. Why would I risk happiness. Thank you for reading.
When we become focused on one thought, or one point of view, we become participants of tunnel vision. When this happens differing thoughts, or conflicting points of view, are considered to be opponents. Many of us believe that contempt prior to investigation is the worst kind of prejudice. While wrapped up in tunnel vision most of us do this. Reality is many of us have difficulty admitting when we are wrong. As we grow, many of us can step out of tunnel vision. We learn to see, hear, and experience. When we learn to do this, we become more flexible recovering human beings. We become human beings who are living with humility one day at a time. Thank you for reading.
Waiting for the outcome of an endeavor, or a goal, can teach us that time takes time. Perhaps we have done what we can, and the completion of this endeavor is up to another person, or other people. At times we grow weary, or discouraged, because our endeavors have not come to fulfillment when we had hoped them to be. This can be difficult for us if we are ego driven people. In reality we are learning one day at a time recovery which is time takes time. In this we find humility. Sometimes we have simple essential goals such as becoming gainfully employed. We have completed the necessary requirements to work in a career we hope to be employed at but perhaps there is an open competition for one month. We cannot expect to be offered the job on the first day of this competition. Reality is time takes time. It’s life. Thanks for reading.
When we have the ability to live in the present moment we can experience a sense of awe which can give us the gift of joy. Often, when trying to follow direction from another person, poor concentration clouds my ability to be present in that moment. I recall a day when I found myself living in the present moment. We were attending an outdoor church service. We were directed to sit in silence and be aware. While in the present moment our surroundings were simply awesome. Serenity and joy revealed the present moment. I was experiencing a living picture. The whispering breeze made the leaves of the trees dance. The birds sang. The sun glowed. A young child played in the earth. As God brought this picture to life the world was grand. This is living in the present moment. Thank you for reading.
Sometimes living in recovery requires us to do the next right thing. Often, when lacking motivation, we don’t know what we should do. Sometimes we call this depression. Sometimes we call this confusion. Hopefully we can rely on our living routines to let us know what we can do next. This is doing the next right thing. Perhaps the next right thing for us to do is as simple as getting out of bed. Perhaps then breakfast. Perhaps then doing our morning hygiene. Perhaps prayer and meditation. Often our routines let us know what the next right thing is. We participate in our one day at a time recovery. Doing the next right thing can really help us when we are feeling anxious. When we are depressed, confused, or anxious we can be ok. Thank you for reading.
The motivational factor, that many people living in recovery find, is freedom and independence. The freedom I am writing about is the ability to make choices in our lives. One day at a time we can become free from the bondage of substance dependency because we have the choice to be this way. The independence I am writing about is the choice to make decisions for ourselves. Some of us may have lost this motivational factor at one point in our lives.
Many people who have this motivational factor do well in living their one day at a time recovery. Many people are living life as responsible productive people. One day at a time recovery is a big step from a detox or a hospital. From such places we learn many tools to live in recovery. The freedom and independence of choice brings motivation to recognize life is good even when adversities arise. Thank you for reading.