Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand what reoccurring reality is all about. We are the people who upon being awakened ask for help to face each new day. In hopes of remaining abstinent, many of us read recovery orientated material. And somehow, someway, we hope to fill the duties and responsibilities of our days. On another note some of us write one day at a time recovery musings to help steer us in the right direction. In all reality we are practicing prayer and meditation in an affirmative and practical way. Doing this as such is the definite beginning of the reoccurring reality of one day at a time recovery. We might even help others. Peace.
Most people who have been in recovery for a fair amount of time know that we don’t have it all together. Others might believe us to be hypocrites because we sometimes share brave experience in a seemingly holding it together manner in desperate efforts of not appearing weak. That’s our truth – we live with it. We know that we are just one fear, one tragedy, or one difficulty away from losing our seemingly courageous demeanor and at times we do fall apart. Our reality is that grace picks us up by throwing in the towel for us. Life, as always, becomes doable and we live to fight another day. We reach out for help. Peace.
Many people living life one day at a time learn that being in recovery is the beginning of everything. Living in recovery is the beginning of surrender and the beginning of freedom. We then learn that freedom becomes the beginning of responsibility and that responsibility is a personal endeavor. This personal endeavor is done with the help of others by at times helping others. We also learn that fear is the beginning of courage and that courage is the beginning of fear. What we discover is our black and white world begins to see just one way to recovery but, in reality recovery is multi-shaded, and multi-colored. What a terrified and brave life we live. It’s the beginning of everything. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand living a good life is an exercise of practicing reasonable reality. Living reasonable reality forces us to believe in the benefits of one day at a time humility while seeking the benefits of one day at a time growth. We find growing in leaps and bounds might be too fast for us but in all reality, when it does happen, we hold on and navigate this reality keeping ourselves connected with our supports to keep us from becoming vain, aloof, and unrealistic with little regard for our search for reasonable reality. It becomes all about us. To live in recovery we need to be grounded, and while being grounded, we appreciated the joys and the safety found in our inextricable connection to those we are akin with. This gifted togetherness is born from grace, and in as such reasonable reality is a welcomed benefit founded in our relationships with others. In time we understand that living a good life is an exercise of practicing reasonable reality. One day at a time recovery shows us this. Peace.
Many of us who live in one day at a time recovery know what real reality is all about. We know that in real reality remaining abstinent from our addictions offers us the opportunity to live peaceful lives regardless of the periods of stress that life offers all people. Someone told us that this too shall pass. And it does. What many of us discover is we need to participate in self-care. Probably coffee becomes decaf and extra activity ceases. We try and find ways to share the load. Perhaps we need to talk to a professional. We enjoy calm settings. We deal with our responsibilities in small steps. We rest and we relax. And it is important that we accept help. As was said before the real reality is stress passes. Reach out. Peace.
Many of us living in one day at a time recovery understand when we are practicing being resilient in today we are creating hope for tomorrow. When we are living as resilient people there is a determination growing within us that brings a familiar strength that pushes us to keep going, and keep growing, in order that we can face adversity, while being capable of remaining abstinent one day at a time, today. This is the reality of hope which we lived yesterday, live today, and will live tomorrow. Our experience teaches us that life is a doable and inviting place to be when we practice becoming resilient while living in today. Resilience and hope happen before we even know it. They are gifts. Peace.
Many of us who have been living in one day at a time recovery for a fair amount of time eventually realize that we still have much to learn. With consequence, both of ours and of others’, becoming our mentor, we eventually learn the realities of our short comings and the realities of change. In as such we understand that laughter is better than tears but at times, tears are better than laughter. What is happening to us is we are developing situational awareness. This too is a great teacher. It’s called empathy. We have much to learn, don’t we? Peace.
Those of us who are living in one day at a time recovery know the reality of wanting to be living in a perfect world. Living in a perfect world would be easy, and that sense of ease we sought to be living in brought us to the beginning of addiction as we tried to escape from from the difficult, the painful, and the unfairness of life. What we discover is the escape into the perfect world would not last because we would want, obsessively want and indefinitely need the reassurance and the reaffirming of perfect non-realities to take us out of the perfection of the perfect world and grant us with the touches of adversities and pain to let us know that there is such a thing as perfection but we would not be happy because while always in it we simply cannot see or experience it. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery are soon to understand that our journeys are the search for humble elevation to dry land after the dam had broke. We are not seeking to become spiritually superior to any person, people or peoples and we definitely do not find dry land by any means other than the grace and compassion from others. Grace and compassion are the reality and the joy of one day at a time recovery. In absolute reality our reality might just overwhelm us with the gratitude of rescued people. Our desperation is a gift. Peace.
Many people living life one day at a time often learn the reality of human growth in retrospect according to our age and our time in recovery. This is not a put-down on those who are younger or those who are fairly new to one day at a time recovery. It is the reality of limited experience and the knowledge that life is grace, life is love, and life will always have its limitations. If we cannot accept this, life becomes a terribly egocentric tailspin in which we believe we live in recovery because of our own accord. We don’t understand that grace, love, and acceptance are a God thing, and that God, the spirit or the universe are in all reality the other. Reality sets in and in retrospect we understand we are all vessels who have found safe harbor from the storms of our innocence. Peace.