Some people living in one day at a time recovery have a fair amount of resistance in regards to letting go of fears, phobias, and anxiety. Such feelings are a little more intense than the average non-one day at a time recovering person. When we have grown to a point in our recovery where fears, phobias, and anxiety become simply episodic we wonder are such adversities really any more intense than anyone else’s. Probably not. Our reality is we need not turn to active addiction to cope. Perhaps what we discover is when such conditions are chronic we do learn to cope with fears, phobias, and anxiety. One day at a time, one step at a time. Many of us need professional help. Be strong and reach out. It is the brave thing to do. Letting go can be hard. Maybe we just need a push in the right direction. Peace.
There are days that some people living in one day at a time recovery have spurting moments of being defensive and angry. Anxiety has a tendency of bringing such spurting moments to life. During these days we just as soon prefer to have no extra responsibilities or undertakings because our manner tends to become belligerent and unkind at such moments. Too long, and too much stress tends to do this to some of us. The sad thing is that this can happen during the preparations leading up to such events as Christmas and other festive times of the year especially when our anxiety level is already high because of other stressors. We need to remember we need to take mental health breaks. It’s important. By doing this we and those close to us will benefit. Peace.
There are many of us who have lived in one day at a time recovery who know that there are days when we will be afraid. These days, or these times tend to happen when things get out of sorts and we cannot do what we had hoped to do. This happens when circumstances say no to our plans and we fall short of being able to do what we had hoped to do. There are times financial shortages create such circumstances. We fear that we are not measuring up when in all reality we are doing the best we can. If we cannot accept when circumstances say no to us fear and disappointment can wreak havoc with our peace of mind. It’s the people pleaser in us that makes us afraid. We know this. Acceptance is our only answer. We let it go. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery found the act of sensibly surrendering to the belief that they just had to stay clean and sober for one day at a time made it possible that they could live in recovery for many, many years. Reality and desperation made it possible for many of us to follow their lead. We found one day, one day, one day lead to long-time recovery for many of us who followed their example. All we could say to ourselves is it simply made sense and it was simple enough to do. Many of us in recovery believe that sensibly surrendering to one day at a time recovery is an absolute truth. If you haven’t already, give it a try. It’s worth it. Peace.
Often those of us who live in one day at a time recovery understand that we all have dreams that fall by the wayside. Having said that we know that living in one day at a time recovery prepares us to adapt to such sometimes difficult events. Our question is – have we been setting good and realistic goals? Do we understand that perseverance and resilience are an important part of reaching these goals and will we be able to let go of what might become truly unattainable. Reality reveals to us that many dreams do fall by the wayside. Such falling is an important part of growth and grow we shall for our perseverance and resilience of living in one day at a time recovery makes us okay. We understand reality. Peace.
Those of us who live in one day at a time recovery understand the meaning of being reinstated into reality. We know that this happens one day at a time and that reinstated reality happens coincidingly with a spiritual awakening. When we are graced with a spiritual awakening of reinstated reality we stop trying to fit in with others. Reinstated reality is an awakening of accepting that we are inextricably connected to other recovering people and in all reality we know that with them we belong. We also know that reality is reality. We need to take the good with the bad. Such an awakening happens long before we are aware of it. When we become the stillness in the present moment we understand. Reinstated reality is a gift. Peace.
Most people living in one day at a time recovery know and experience the reality of The Struggle. The Struggle is real as real can be. We categorically give The Struggle a titled name as if it were a novel, a song, a statue or perhaps another work of creative art. In reality we are often thrust in the role of being the subject of The Struggle. We know that living in one day at a time recovery that we can accept what we cannot change, change what we can, and we hopefully know we have the wisdom to know the difference. Most of us find out that The Struggle is based on a circumstance or circumstances which can very easily change. It just seems like it lasts forever. Reach out. Peace.
Some people living in one day at a time recovery believe that responsibilities are gifts and challenges. We realize that when our responsibilities come in the forms of gifts we will benefit from fulfilling such responsibilities. We don’t believe that we don’t have to do some work to receive a gift. Abstaining from active addiction and participating in other forms of responsible work can make it so that we will have food, clothing, medical care and shelter. We are not just talking about paid work, we are talking about responsible action in which we can access the system for help when needed. The paradoxical reality of this is we have to face and participate responsibly and measure up to the challenges that arise when we live responsibly and in recovery. We discover that the gifts and challenges have come from meeting our responsibilities. We will have help. It’s all grace. Peace.
When you’re a type four on the enneagram, melancholy will visit your one day at a time recovery more often than it will visit other recovering people. One of the reasons for this is because we fours struggle with belonging and also we know the reality of our own weaknesses as well as the weaknesses of other people. We see people struggle with adversities and we see ourselves struggling with adversities. When people come to us with their difficulties we might tell them that such difficulties are just life as if we were paraphrasing the Buddha when the Buddha said life is suffering. We hear others when they voice the naturalities of life but we know we are not counsellors. We suggest they find professional help. Our strengths are listening, navigating the hard feelings, and empathy but we know that at times we all need competent professional help. Peace.
Most of us living in one day at a time recovery know that most of us are not doctors, priests, and politicians although we do need to recognize that some of us are. What the recovering doctors, priests, and politicians tell us is that they are only one drink, one puff or one hit away from getting wasted. They view their one day at a time recovery as a gift believing that they, like us, have found recovery because they were graced with the reality of desperation. In their eyes they told us that they are no different than we are, and that we all live in recovery one day at a time. Our realities are we all hit bottom and we don’t want to do so again. Many doctors, priests, and politicians like to keep their private lives private similar to many others in recovery. Sometimes this is a necessity for many people living in one day at a time recovery. We know this and we need respect this need. We are receiving the gift of reality. Peace.