Man people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of accepting sorrow. What we need to understand is there is a difference between accepting sorrow and being overtaken by depression. When accepting sorrow we are living in a reality of sadness or melancholy where as depression needs professional help. When we talk about accepting sorrow the only treatment that we need is to listen to a sad song ( Like “Sad Songs” sung by Elton John) or perhaps even a good cry on a friend’s shoulder. What is happening then is we are developing resilience and we will become a shoulder for another to cry on. We understand that accepting sorrow can be a part of life. We don’t live in sorrow. Sorrow becomes a stepping stone to peace. We are being welcomed into life and recovery. Acceptance of sorrow is a tool of recovery. Peace.
Many of us living with mental health disorders and addiction discover living in recovery is all about finding our niche in reality. The difficulty of finding our niche in reality is that we have to survive our delusional thinking long enough to discover the reality of wellness. When we discover reality we learn our lives are not as bad or as grand as we believe they are. In humility we have to circumnavigate our delusions becoming ordinary people no matter how attuned we are to surviving love’s dreams, disappointments, and absolute joys. We discover we are just like our kin which is we are people, just people. It is a wonderful reality as we awaken isn’t it. Welcome to the human race. Welcome to reality.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery eventually realize the reality of navigating their own thoughts. What many of us learn is our thoughts and our thinking are really two different functions of our minds. We do not have to be influenced by our thoughts as much as we might believe that we do. We will discover that when we think our minds are in a process of discerning our reality and our next, or our future course of action which is either to control what the outcome will be or to move on to a different task or reality. Thinking always prepares us for what is or what will be even when we try to amend our past. What we learn is thoughts are often from outside of ourselves which are often unworthy of our attention. What we discover is a good therapist or an intuitive person with a good deal of integrity can help. Many of us use centering prayer to help us let go. This is letting go and letting God. Today we can choose. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of having fear. These fears that we have might be a bit persistent but often they lie fallow and they’re really not as consequential as we think they may be. Often we learn to navigate our fear and we do okay. What we come to understand is that which we fear, although it might bring a lot of discomfort, is faceable, doable, or overcome. Another reality is some fears we have are just common sense. We avoid such harmful realities. After all we don’t try to kiss a cobra do we. What we discover is if we are afraid and we can take action to negate such fear and overcome this reality we do so. This is changing what we can. If we cannot change this situation we accept it and we avoid the wasp nest. It’s all based in reality and consequence. Peace
Some people living in one day at a time recovery are people living with wild dreams. They are usually creative and intuitive beings. Deep down and in humble reality all they want to do is help people and they do so with their creativity and their emotionally driven desires. They try to help people find a one day at a time freedom with what they create. Many times others find themselves identifying with the creative realities of the wild dreams these creatives share with them. Sometimes these creative beings become beacons of hope for people seeking freedom. If you want to dream dream. if you want to create create. But remain humble. Humility is our greatest asset. It keeps us real. Peace.
Many people living in one day at a time recovery have found a lot of inspiration from the experience of people who found recovery in the rooms of recovery. If we ask them for help they will tell us their experience with navigating both life and recovery as opposed to sharing opinions with us. Their experience is all that they have that will help us. It gives us hope and also their experience and their recovery might just be something we can relate to. What we are quick to discover is that we can identify with where they came from, what happened, and what their hope is for tomorrow. This is the reality of one day at a time recovery. It’s a tried and tested tool of recovery and it works. Reach out, pay attention, and be well. Peace.
Some people who are living in early recovery in 12 step meetings will look up to others who have long-time recovery and also carry a clear message when they share their experience, strength, and hope with us. We put these people up on pedestals. Time and experience teaches us that this is not fair to them or us for that matter. What we need to understand is that all of us have clay feet. We are just an arm’s length away from a drink, a puff, a snort, or a hit. What experience shows us is anyone can relapse. Although we know that relapse is not a failure, we must except reality. It is grace and continual work in these rooms that keep us in recovery. In other words God, the spirit, or the universe helps us to be spiritually fit enough to remain abstinent. We don’t put people on pedestals. We continue the work of one day at a time recovery and we learn reality. Anyone can slip. To avoid this we remain vigilant. Peace.
Most people living in one day at a time recovery understand the reality of finding morning’s clear mind. We might wake and automatically shift into survival mode or we might be caught up in other morning routines. Our reality is in our search to find morning’s clear mind, most of us turn to God for another awakening. We often petition God for help in living another day in recovery. What most of us understand is that many of us have our own conception of God and many of us might label that God, God, the spirit, or the universe. What we discover early on in our recovery is by doing so we are on our way to clarity. In this clarity we ready ourselves to face life and life’s own terms. We become ready to grow one day at a time. Who knows. We might even help somebody. Peace.
Many people who are living in one day at a time recovery write in journals, or in notebooks, the realities of our lives. We do this because we want to learn what we have to deal with when we attempt to live life on life’s on terms. We will get to know ourselves and we will discover we cannot unlearn what we have learned. This is a step in self-awareness. If we haven’t learned to be gentle with ourselves now is the time to do so. It will be a lot to take in in the beginning. Most of us learn how to pray at this time. Twelve step programs can help us face our truths. We have to be gentle with ourselves. We will also learn that God, the spirit, or the universe loves us. In general we learn the beginning of trust. Growth is beginning. Peace.
The reality of becoming people who are living in one day at a time recovery in the rooms of recovery is sometimes we have to knock on the door. Knocking on the door is an analogy for when we call a detox center for information on where we can find directions as to where we can find meeting places for people who are living in recovery from addiction. When we find out where these meetings are we are on our road to one day at a time recovery. Now that we have knocked on the door we are actually reaching out for help. It is a necessary action. We will tell you it works for us. Knock on the door. Find out where we are. You don’t have to do it alone anymore. Peace